Monday, 7 January 2013

RELATIONSHIP CHOICES – WHO IS AROUND YOU?



I dare to suggest that when God wants to bless a person, He sends a man into their life and as is usual with satan who counterfeits God’s ways, he also sends a man into a life he wants to destroy. When God wanted to bless Naaman He sent the maid to his home; when He wanted to work a wonder in the time of Ahab He sent Elijah and there are countless such stories but I must mention that when He wanted to bless mankind, He sent His only begotten son Jesus Christ. So the people we let into our lives definitely matter and add to determine what we become. 

Some people may consider you mean for disallowing some people into your life but you have to remember that you take responsibility for your life. I am not suggesting that you form what we call ‘clicks’ in Nigeria and please note also that being members of your church does not make a person okay to be in your life. Some people are meant to be acquaintances, which doesn’t give them a role in your life, so there’s no point being nice and allowing them in your life. Despite there being so many translations of the bible, there is not one I have found that uses the word ‘nice’ to describe what God expects of us. If you allow any and every one into your life, your life will end up nowhere. Some people just don’t fit no matter how hard they try.

I hope you understand that I am not just talking about bad people because some people though very good, have not been allowed into your life. Indeed, it is very easy to disallow people in your life when they are bad. The problem is usually with good people. Even satan uses good people just like he himself pretends to be an angel of light. If he made his servants outright bad, then it would be easy to identify and disallow them but he does not. Also, if we make these decisions using our physical senses we would most likely make wrong choices so it has to be by discernment. Sometimes, even the people God sends into our lives are not necessarily the best people but God sent them for His own purpose.

2 Corinthians 11: 14 “But I am not surprised! Even satan disguises himself as an angel of light.

Let me use the example of Judas who was allowed into Christ’s life; for Christ had to be betrayed. Betrayal speaks of breaking trust/ treachery/ disloyalty and so on; so it would have to take someone you trust to betray you. To fulfill His God given purpose, Jesus needed a ‘slimy’ person in His inner circle and that was Judas. At the end of the day, his evil nature worked for God’s purpose. When God brings such people into your life, He gives you the grace to deal with them yet He opens your eyes to see who they truly are. If however, they are in your life without His consent, they will outsmart and mislead you because you have not been given grace to deal with them. 

However, there are some people God sends into our life but we think are bad because they don’t say what we want them to say. Please let us make the decision to ‘live smart.’ The world advises that we work smart so we can be productive but there is no working smart without smart decisions about those you surround yourself with. Please prayerfully look for new friends if this is necessary. Time is far spent for the night draws closer so we need to be fast about being wise. Emotions cannot really take us far.

2 comments:

  1. And the truth is that, somewhere in your gut, in your spirit where God speaks to you, you KNOW the instant you meet someone who is 'off'. In 2013, we must not ignore that voice. You are spot on Pastor B, not everyone who seems nice and helpful is nice and helpful FOR YOU. The bottom line as you have taught us so many times is that we need to be DISCERNING!!!!

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  2. Absolutely otherwise we have to blame ourselves for whatever happens. We owe it to ourselves to be discerning.

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