One thing I know for certain is that it makes a huge difference when believers discover and accept who God made them to be. When one gets to this point, there is a certain confidence that begins to unfold in the person; it is real confidence coming from deep from within, evidence of God’s presence in the believer. It comes from deep within and is very empowering. The more one studies the scriptures, the more confident the person becomes which said confidence may appear intimidating to those who do not understand the way of the Holy Spirit who empowers us and as such mistake it for pride so that they often accuse these Spirit filled/led believer of pride because they refuse to be intimidated despite fears within.
2 Timothy 1: 7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear
and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.”
Unfortunately, in today’s world, believers hardly have
this experience because we love the world too much to fully lend ourselves to
God thus disallowing the full reveal of who we really are as a result of which
we suffer all sorts of insecurities and struggle so hard to outdo one another, destroying
ourselves in the process and all because we seek the relevance that God already
gave us. Unfortunately, we then end up much less relevant. In trying to be all
things we end up being nothing and then get entangled in unhealthy rivalry,
envy and jealousy when all one needed was to be connected to God. The
confidence that comes from knowing who you are is all one needs to be relevant.
The promise of being the head made to us by God cannot be realized in this very
unhealthy way which instead leaves one empty and with zero self-esteem, feeling
much less than God intended and unwittingly making their bodies uncomfortable
for the Holy Spirit so that many have, by so doing, pushed Him out and opened
themselves up to an evil spirit like Saul did.
Galatians 5: 19-21 “When you follow the desires of your
sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful
pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of
anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties,
and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone
living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.”
The sad thing is the entire body of Christ suffers at the
end of the day. In trying to do what someone else does, a gap is created
because you are then unable to give your own role all it requires and you also
make it harder for the person in the role you desire to function effectively in
their God given role. The eye and the nose for example are two different things
fulfilling their purpose. If for example the nose begins to feel like it would only
be relevant if it was both eye and nose, not only would it truly begin to feel
less relevant, it would struggle to make the eye look less useful, unwittingly moving
away from its own place and making it more difficult for the eye to function
when it is only equipped to breathe. At the end of the day, the body ends up
suffering with badly functioning eyes and nose all because of the insecurities
of the nose. You don't fight to be special, you already are, it is God given
not withstanding your position your position or office; just take on the responsibility
and carry yourself well.
1 Peter 2: 9 “But you are not like that, for you are a
chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession.
As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of
the darkness into his wonderful light.”
Let me add that this fight is more disgusting when it is
for someone’s attention. You want to be so relevant in one person's life that you
don’t want them to have any other close friends. It is evil and wicked.
Different people have roles in any one person’s life at any point in time. No
one person can be all things to one person to the exclusion of all others. God
made some eyes, others nose and so on, in every life. If you feel like that,
then you have a problem which you do well to deal. It is the height of
selfishness. The truth is you are only thinking of yourself, how you feel and
what you want at that point and when you are tired, you move on not caring the
mess you created in their lives. Meanwhile, this very shameful attitude does
not take cognizance of how young or old the person you are competing against is;
all that is on your mind, is that the person be pushed out. Be careful, because
you could end up killing someone. Murdering someone with your mouth is
culpable.
Many people argue that it isn't their fault. They insist
that they are used to getting a lot of attention because they were spoilt with
attention as children. Please get over it, not everyone in the world is your
parent so they are unable to give you the kind of attention your parents gave
you. Others excuse themselves by arguing that they did not get enough attention
growing up, again I say please get over it you are now grown and we are all
showered with excessive attention by our God who loves us so much, He is all
over us in love and if you walk with Him, you will always be relevant. He made
you with a purpose and no one else could fulfill that purpose like you and this
even with regard to your role in the lives of individuals. In sticking to your
role, you allow others do their own thing more easily making the world a better
place. Whether or not you know it, you are a blessing who is blessed.